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cheeks glowing, her lips hardly able to finish very lovely and interesting. A kind hearted, without laughing, that when she had really fin- affectionate creature, the idol of her parents, ibe ished, we both burst into a loud laugh.
charm of the circle to which she belongs, bril“Well now, seriously,” said she, “ the present liant in conversation, with a noble mind and in. race of women, excuse me, ladies, are very frail tellect,-a beautiful and rare jewel, but shrined -physically frail. Their constitutions are fee- in such a slender casket, that the lightest breath ble, their cheeks pale, their forms are slight and of heaven may shiver it to atoms. And she, 100, fragile. Indeed should they have the misfor- who can take no exercise at home, who eren tune to be like myself, stout and hearty, I use a when conversing, has that soft, languid air, so homely but expressive phrase, they are regarded indicative of ill health, she attends concerts two with pity. Perhaps you may think I am selfish or three times a week, for with her passionate when I say that this shows a very perverted love of music, how can she forego this pleasure ? taste in the present generation."
And if you have ever seen her after such exer“But you must own, Kate, that is impossible tion, you can tell how much they affect her. for every one to brave the weather and the walk. Alas for the happiness of the noble heart of Al. ing with the same impunity with which you can hert B~ loving her so fondly, and trusting to i do it."
call her his wife ere another Winter, but the “Yes, I will allow it. But still these weak, flowers of the present Summer will, I very much frail creatures, with their delicate constitutions, fear, blossom upon her grave. Oh the mistakea who cannot walk unless the weather is just so, love of parents, who thinking too little of the who cannot fetch the water to wash their own health of their children, seek to cultivate their hands, who never dream of going through the mental powers, and make them smart and preextraordinary exercise of sweeping their own cocious, to the neglect of their physical powers, rooms, will yet venture out into the damp air of forgetful how nearly the two are connected. I night, for ball, party, or concert, sit in heated, hope that now women have entered into the unwholesome rooms, or exposed to cold draughts, study of medicine, the mistake will be corrected. till a very late hour, and then if they take cold, But what a homily I have been reading you. I it is so very strange how they could possibly hope you have not gone asleep while I have let have taken it."
my tongue run so loosely. But what directed “But you do not condemn balls, parties, and my thoughts into this channel, was a scene which concerts, if I am not mistaken, I think I have I had just witnessed before I came in here." heard that Miss Kate herself has a certain pas- “ What was it, Kate, relate it to me; indeed sion for the theatre."
I have been hig entertained, and am not at “Yes, when there is some great attraction, all sleepy." worth taking all the trouble we must necessarily Kate settled herself comfortably into her chair take to go. Indeed I am no enemy to these as if beginning a story. things in moderation, but then I like to see peo- “ You doubtless remember Lucy C-, our ple consistent.”
old school-mate, whom we used to call lazy Lu“ But one is not to blame for being sick and
cy sometimes, when vexed at her. It makes delicate, and afraid of east winds and muddy me laugh now to think of it; I believe she was walking. You would not advise a person like naturally very indolent, indeed we had every our friend Clara D to brave the weather of
reason to think so. Her mother indulged her in to-day.”
it, saying she was not well, poor child; she told *Certainly not, but now you speak of Clara, people so often that she was not well, that Lucy take her for example. Beautiful and interesting herself began to think she was not, and as it : she is, I will allow, so much so, that it always suited well her disposition to be thought an insends a painful feeling through my heart to look valid, she was well content. How I have long. at her. But what has made her so delicate and
ed many a time to lead that girl a march up and fragile ? What but injudicious treatment from
down Washington Street, and round the Com. her youth up. Kept away from wholesome air
mon. I had faith that I could cure her in a week, and exercise, confined to her books and studies, but I never had the chance to try. Well, as you for which having a natural taste and inclination, know, she got married. Married pretty well, she felt no hardship, and did not sigh for out of too, a fine house, two servants, a husband wbo door exercise as some children would have done, dressed her very well, and loved her I suppose and so she grew up pale and delicate, though as well as he could. Ever since the birth of her
first child, her health has been declining. It was always understood the face of a true wife should too much exertion to take care of her child, so do, grew still darker, if possible. She stood another servant must be procured. This was gloomily aside while her husband spoke to me, done, and then she grew a little better. In due but I could see that his eye wandered uneasily time two more children were given to the happy towards her. “ Poor man," thought I to myself, couple. Her health of course grew worse and “he is to be pitied; I know he will be obliged
to hear a long complaint after I am gone, and I called there this morning, to speak to her he I fancy is perfectly sensible of the fact.” I about a little girl who had been living with her, took my leave as soon as I could, and in passing and who is now with my sister. I was shown down the stairs, I heard the cry of an infant into the parlor. I waited and waited, looked at blending with the sturdy war of an older child. all the books and pictures, and every thing in I quickened my steps, and was soon in the street. the room. At last she came, and she looked so My heart was full of pity for Lucy, for I knew languid and ill, that I fairly begged her pardon, she was really miserable. While if she had fearing I had disturbed her. "Oh no,' she said,
been properly trained in youth, what was now she was thankful to get away from the noise to her a source of misery, might and ought to of the children for awhile, and was very glad to be her greatest, truest happiness. see me. How is your health ?" said l.
“But then if she is really sick, it is her mis" It is not very good," she replied, “I am fortune, not her fault.” troubled with a nervous affection, and the noise I do not deny but it is partly so, but the fault of so many children worries me exceedingly. lies at sornehody's door. But, О dear, if she onChildren are very troublesome, don't you think ly had a little energy and will. I think she would so ? but then you are very fortunate, you have succeed better, if she would not give up to every no opportunity of knowing."
petty annoyance; but she was never taught to "Oh yes,” said I, “I am with my sister a do this, and has not moral courage enough to good deal, and she has four little ones, and I al. perform it now. But it is so sad to see the ways have a grand time with the merry urchins." truest happiness and purest joys of life looked
“Ah well,” sighed she, “they do very well to upon as a trial and a burden." play with for a little while, but if you had the
But you are so healthy yourself, Kate, that care of them day and night, as I do, and my
you do not have charity for those who are ill. delicate health, you would know what a trial
People are not always to blame for being sick." they were."
“It is because I have so much charity that I Just at this moment a little dirty faced boy
have spoken so long upon the subject. And that thrust his head in at the door, and called loudly there is so much sickness in the world that canfor mother. She rose hastily, and stepped into
not be avoided, is why I would have people ex. the entry. I heard a noise which sounded very
ercise more care, and understand better, and pay much like the application of her band rather
more attention to, the rules of health. In my smartly to his ear, a cry from the child, a push
way of thinking, sickness was sent by God 10 along the entry; and she opened the door and
call forth the noblest faculties of onr nature, and entered." The rogue,” said she, “always fol.
to discipline our souls. Were there no sick lowing me, there is no peace for a moment."
beds, we should never hear of those beautiful inI would have finished my business as quickly
stances of self-devotion and love, which shine as possible, but upon mentioning my errand, she
round our path like gleams from Ileaven. The entered into a long complaint upon the never best lessons of my life have been taught me ending and ever grievous subject of help. They
when I have watched by the bed of sickness; were so ignorant, so wasteful, so impudent, so
and I have experienced as much true happiness careless, that they almost wore her to death.
when sitting by the suffering, and endeavoring “ What a fortunate circumstance," said she,
to cheer the hours of pain and anguish, as I have " that you are not married, and are not plagued
in times of health and joy. But how I have run with children and servants; you know not what
on this morning; I really must be going, and you enjoy."
hoping that the wind will soon change from the Just as I rose to go, the master of the house
East, and the mud soon dry so that you can entered. I noticed that the face of his wife, in
walk out and enjoy the fine Spring, I wish you stead of brightening at his approach, as I have
a good day. VOL. XX.
N. T. MUNROE.
THEY who have freedom's race to run,
Though the dull world may turn away
F. L. HAGADORN.
by calling in our vanity and placing them both to the account of a proper self-respect. That is a very dignified word, and a convenient substitute for the more objectionable term, a proud spirit. It may satisfy the person who uses it as the genuine coin, but he will scarcely get the world to receive it without a very large discount.
What,” says the man of self-respect, “shall I be so wanting to myself, shall I be so unmindful of my station, fortune, family or talents, as to take a lower stand ? Am I thus to be shorn of my honors ?" By no means. In taking that stand, you are substantiating your title ; you are making yourself secure in the possession of it, and you are doing this on the most approved principle, one that will save you from the jeal. ousies and heart burnings of others less favora. bly situated than yourself.
Whatever opinions the world may entertain as it respects the retributions of the next life, I fancy it is pretty well satisfied that as far as pride and humility are concerned, men are very justly dealt with in the present. Men's own passions and feelings are very ready executioners, and he whose insolence and pride is morti. fied, as it most assuredly will be, experiences an amount of retribution fully proportioned to all its gratifications; while on the other hand the truly modest and humble man will not fail to receive that consideration to which his virtues entitle him.
There are few failings on which the world will not look with more indulgence than pride. The proud man in his intercourse with community makes a personal attack on all those with whom he associates. He cannot speak a plainer language when by his actions he asserts his superiority, if he said in just so many words, “You are my inferior.” There is, in his case, no parable in the matter; it is very downright, unmistakable and offensive language. If be meets one whom he considers beneath himself in the social scale, he either does not notice bim at all, or if he does, it is in such a manner as to mark his sense of the distance that exists between them, so that no notice would be less insulting than such a notice. Now as no one is altogether devoid of pride, he will be very apt to resent the insult, so that there is scarcely any vice not cognizable by the law of the land, which is so sure of condign punishment.
Pride is scarcely more offensive to those towards whom it is manifested, than it is painful to the possessor himself. The proud man is the most sensitive of all human beings. He is sore
When our good Master noticed with what eagerness those who were invited to a feast, thrust then selves in the uppermost seats, he pointed out to them the impropriety of their conduct. He enforced his remarks by a very weighty consideration, that it might happen that the ruler of the feast should think proper to invite some more favored individual to occupy the seat which they had selected, and then they would with shame pass to a lower place; whereas, if in the first instance they took a more humble station, they might be invited to a higher, and the guests would then respect them, because the preference was shown to them and not assumed by them. Having inculcated the lesson, he endorses it with a moral of very general application," he that exalteth himself shall be abased, and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted."
This lesson is a hard one to learn, and after we have got it by heart, it is still hard to practise. We are often pleased to gratify our pride
all over. Like some nervous folks that we meet himself up at too low a price), he must possess with, while they make not the slightest allow- but a very limited insight into human nature, if ance for the feelings of others, they are all sen- he has not discovered that whatever respect and sitiveness as it regards themselves, you cannot consideration he receives, must be a free-will touch the proud man but he shrinks, and a di- offering and not a demand. A person may get rect assault, putting him in a ridiculous light in up a pretty large subscription in his favor, perthe sight of others, wounds him to the quick. haps with very moderate pretensions to the lib. Pride takes all its enjoyment and comfort from erality or sympathies of the community, but if the deference it receives from others. It has to he undertakes to demand it as a tax from those go abroad to seek its appropriate food. The who are under no legal obligation to pay it, he respect, consideration, and approbation of the will not obtain a sixpence. Such a claim would world, are what it covets. This is not the case at once be resisted, and his title which might with vanity. That has a good supply of food not have been very narrowly examined, would treasured up in its storehouse for home consump
at once be vitiated. The home government tion, and without the intervention of a miracle, might have raised from the colonies all that it “its barrel of meal wastes not and its cruse of was in their power to afford, if it had been reoil does not fail.” The vain man is perfectly quested as an accommodation, but when it at. blest in his own self-esteem. If the rest of tempted to force taxes upon the people, which the world does not discover his merits, that they esteemed unequal and unjust, they resisted is their misfortune and not his fault. He is the imposition and stood up boldly for their conscious of his own possessions, and with that rights, and so it happened, that instead of getconviction he is satisfied; so that the saying ting a part, it lost the whole. which distinguishes between vanity and pride,
The best remedy for pride is not to try and is not out of the way, when it asserts that a
conceal it, but to labor to get rid of it altogether. man may be too vain to be proud.
If it is really in us, it will be working out in We see, then, what an uncomfortable thing spite of us and betraying us. It is of a very efpride is. How much it stands in our way and
fervescent nature, and the vessel must be very keeps us from the enjoyment of a thousand little tightly hooped to prevent its escape entirely. agremens, as the French term it, and for which The head will inadvertently be thrown back, the we have no corresponding word, unless we coin body straightened up, or words will drop or looks one and call it agreeablenesses, which tend so
be given, that will tell of the spirit within, and much in the journey of life to make the rough
the whole of the secret will be out. If we wish places smooth. A man swollen with pride will
to subdue this evil and eradicate it, it is best to scarcely find room in any company, and the con- call to mind our own weaknesses and imperfecsequence is, that they will push him out or go
tions, and to mark the small difference that reout themselves and leave him alone. The frog
ally exists between ourselves and those of whom in the fable whose ambitious pride led him to
we think so little. When good old David lookendeavor to puff himself to the size of an ox, and
ed out upon the universe and contemplated the who burst in the experiment, (let the proud be
vast machinery at work, beheld suns and sysware !) would not have gained much if he had tems innumerable rolling around him, and then succeeded. Though he might have been infla- saw the minute spot that man occupied in the ted to the size of an ox, that would not have vast panorama, he was confounded at the made an ox of him, and he would have been no thought of his own littleness, and could not longer a companion for frogs. He would have avoid putting the question to his own heart, needed the whole of the puddle to himself, so
" What is man ?" Just think what a shadow that after the attainment of his object he would he is, how fleeting ! how unsubstantial! Follow have had but a sorry life of it.
him to the last scene of his career on earth, and The most certain, and unquestionably the
what are the greatest, the wisest, the wealthileast objectionable way of receiving attention is
est ? See the quenched eye, its fire is out; the to let it come to us and not to go in pursuit of it.
pallid lips, they have lost the power of utterWhat does the proud man ask from the world?
ance; the prostrate frame, it is low enough now, He asks that deference and respect to which be
and let pri stand rebuked. And this is only considers his superior merits entitle him. Very
the threshold to the charnel house. Shortly the well. Supposing that he does not estimate him
worm will carry off all the spoil that remains, self too highly (there is no danger of his setting
and the lord and the peasant will furnish the same fare and share the same fate.
“ How lov’d, how honored once avails thee not, grandfather had been in the chimney sweeping
By whom remember'd and by whom forgot ; line of business, and the other that his nearest A heap of dust is all remains of thee,
of kin had been hung for sheep stealing, they let 'Tis all thou art, 'tis all the proud shall be.” the matter drop. Of all boasts the boast of
ancestry is the most vain glorious. It is one It may be well to consider what are the pre
that has no pretension to merit to recommend tensions on which pride founds her claims, and
it. Fortune, rank, learning and even personal examine the different items with care and can.
charms, are in some measure identified with the dor. The catalogue is not so long as to be te
possessor, but pride of ancestry is what the jack. dious in reading it. There is birth, rank, for
all is to the lion, it waits upon greatness, but tune, learning and beauty. That is about the
has to seek its food in the grave-yard among surn total, and taken even in the aggregate, it
dead men's bones. I rather admire the pride of is not much to boast of. If a person united all
Cowper, if we must have ancestral pride. these advantages in himself, and were modest, humble and unassuming, that would be the most “ My boast is not that I deduce my birth, just cause for pride, if there can be a just cause From loins enthron'd and rulers of the earth, -proud that he was not proud. But this mod- But higher far my proud pretensions rise, esty must be real and not assumed, otherwise it The son of parents pass'd into the skies.” will be only pride disguised, and the searching
Next to birth we mentioned RANK. Rank eye will discover it, and it will be obnoxious to
which in this country takes precedence from ofthe censure which a philosopher applied to one
fice, when it has a title attached to it, has to who in apparent humility affected a tattered
some indescribable charms, and the happy posgarment; “I see that man's pride through the
sessor cannot restrain the emotions with which holes of his cloak.” It seldom happens that all
his proud bosom swells. He considers himself these good things come together. Favors are more equally distributed in general, and he who
called upon to act the great man, and with those has more than his share of one kind, will be
who lack judgment, that is but another name
for what is properly called the “insolence of found deficient in another. It will, therefore,
office.” Perhaps the very thing that ought to be best to take the items separately, and fix a
prevent a proud bearing is the one which in ma: 1 price on each.
ny instances tends to produce it. In this repubPride of Birth is with some of great account. lic most offices from the chief magistrate to the They are well born; they have come of a good country squire, are of short continuance. Being family; they have an aristocratic name; and if thus brief, one would suppose that the holder they can only trace their ancestry across the would reflect how soon he must be placed on water and claim to be only a remote twig of the his former level and act with a becoming modgreat tree of nobility, they have attained the eration, but those who have not good sense to height of their ambition. They would rather
steady them, only reflect that since they are have a coat of arms than a coat to their back, "clothed with a little brief authority,” they had and many who boast of an illustrious descent, better make the most of it, and discharge all would make a much better figure in the world, that they feel within. Their turn has come to if they had as much credit at their tailor's, as be captain, and they cannot forego the pleasure they pretend to have at the herald's office. But
of commanding. Such pride is so ridiculous, if a man is nobly born, modesty and courtesy that when we see it, we cannot but recall the will not tarnish his rank. It will not lessen
anecdote we once heard of a good woman who him in the eyes of those who are fond even of
forbid her children playing with those of her such fancies, but on the contrary will add lustre
neighbors, because her husband had been proto his name. The tracing of lineage is some- moted to the rank of a corporal. what dangerous to pride, especially in a com- The pride of wealth and the purse proud, form mercial country, where rank in society is often another class. This of all pride, is perhaps the the result of fortune, and the lowest on the wheel most difficult to eradicate. Wealth has so mato-day may be uppermost to-morrow. I once
ny fascinations thrown around it; so many are heard of two gentlemen in one of the States, there to do it reverence. Those who abound in whose names were of aristocratic sound, having riches can command and do receive so much atgone to Europe for the express purpose of tracing tention, that after awhile they begin to think their parentage, but one finding that his great that the tribute is paid to their merit and not to