TO START AND OPERATY A PRO-LE? OUT-REACH PROGANCY SERVICE CENTER

QUESTION: I vant an abortion. Will you help me?:

ANSWER:

We have many ways to help a woman, and will gladly help you. Have you
bad a test? We will be glad to do one for you, etc. Get her to see
you are ready and willing to halp her wherever you can and that our
services are all FC and CONFIDENTIAL. If she seems young or frightened,
tall har ve vill use only her first name if she prefers. If she has or
hasn't had a pregnancy test, tall her to come in anyway, we'll do another
test to see if she is pregnant. Your reply vill depend on how old she
sounds, young, frightened, whether she's had a test or not.
Feel your

vay on each call. Assure her we'd like to offer her our varied ser-
vices and answer any of her questions.
Tell her to come in and ve'l1
gladly furnish all she needs to know about abortion, the types done and
vhat services ve do offer. Only when she guesses you are pro-life and
if you definitely feel you have lost her, do you try to talk her out of
an abortion on the phone. Most of the time, it is better not to say any
thing, but persist in saying she might be surprised at how we can help
her in so many ways.
This vill sometines make her come even if she knows
you're pro-life. Talking a voman out of an abortion on the phone is done
only in extreme and few cases. You usually lose her as mentioned earlier?

Always ansver by inquiring when was your last period. is gives you
the chance to say come in, we'll gladly do your test, or it may be a bit
early, but we'll do the test for you. If you have a negative reading,
you can always come back for another test. Do not put yourself in the
position of saying when the test is good or accurate. She may not have
aissed her period yet or still too early, and in waiting to come la she
Bay get her period and never come into the center and you have missed
your chance to educate her. Remember, our goal is to save a child's
life and the best way to do so is to educate her before she gets pregnant,
making her a pro-ler.

I have not missed a period yet. Can I still have the tast?

It may be too early or a little early for the test, but we will gladly do it for you. If the test should happen to be negative cov, you can always come back for another test. This is where we are located, do you now where that it?

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en established in the center to prot. vonen from some
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Can I have a test?

Certainly. We are open on (give the hours and days open).
To appointment is necessary, or may I sake an appointment
for you? We offer the test in only 30 minutes time, and it
is free and confidential. Don't ask any unnecessary questions,
simply give her the directions necessary to find the Center?

QUESTION: What kind of clinic is this? :

ANSWER:

We are a free, community service. We do free pregnancy
tests and have several ways to help a woman if she wants
our help with a problem pregnancy. We are a pregnancy test-
ing clinic.

QUESTION: Who qualifies for your service?

ANSWER: We are open to the public. Any wonan sarried or single, and of any ago. We also help sen who want to seek help for their wife or girlfriend, or simply anyone who wants to ask questions.

QUESTION: Are you a pro-life center?

ANSVER

QUESTION:

INSTER:

We are a pregnancy testing center, part of the Pearson
Foundation. What is pro-life? We have many ways to helpïa
vosan and vill answer any and all questions regarding
nancy and anything she needs to know about abortion.
this point immediately start asking questions to the caller.
Sometimes the caller may be very pro-abortion and not want
our services. Emphasize that she may be surprised at how
sany vays ve can help her. Urge her to come in and at least
find out what ve have to offer.

Has my daughter been there?

Tever say the girl has been into the center. This type of
call is quite rare. Simply tell the caller that if her
daughter does come in, you will have her call. Be very kind
and understanding. Explain our work is very confidential
and some of the time the girls will not use their real name,
ask why she feels the girl was here. Try to help where you
can. You can explain that we do not condone a girl's sexual
activities, but try to help guide thes, as we would wish
someone would if it were our own child. Lat the other talk.
You may be able to console or help her, staply by listening.
Try to get her to come to the office so that she can also be
educated on abortion in case her daughter does become pregnant.
Again, never reveal the fact that the girl has been into the
Center. Suggest that the mother ask the daughter if she is
pregnant.

QUESTION: I'm not sure if you can helpse, but this is my problem.....
ANSWER: If the girl doesn't say auch and you can tell that she is
young and frightened, explain to the young girl how we operate
and that our services are free and confidential.
Make it
very clear that we will not infers the family nor does any-
one know that you are coming in. Or if she is worried about
her name, we will take her first name only. If you are
operating in a small town, assure her that even if the
counselor mows her, everything said and done in the center
is confidential. Give clear directions to the center, 12
necessary, offer her transportation.

QUESTION: Post callers or callers asking questions about sex.

HOW TO START AND OPERATE A PRO-LIFE OUT-REACH PREGNANCY SEX
SERVICE CENTER

calculator, so she can see how you arrived at this figure). INTRODUCING THE PRESENTATION. (See necessity of presentation.pg.30) You, we have come to one of the most important steps to show our love through education in working with the client, and that is tointroduce her and her friends to the presentation.

Remember that the pro-abortion client is very likely under the impression that the unborn baby is nothing more than a blob or an it and that abortion is the safest thing in the world to have performed. So now ve have to let her know she is wrong and she probably doesn't vant to know she's wrong and she doesn't want to change her life-style. She just wants to get the abortion over with, therefore, I have found that it is very difficult to try to educate her without using the presentation. Obviously a smooth and easy transition to the presentation is very necessary. We want to avoid having a client feel that she is being deceived or pressured instead of being educated. fore it is imperative to proceed to the presentation with the proper introduction.

There

It takes a great deal of practice to become confortable with this phase of the counseling. The counselor trainee aust choose vording with which she can feel and appear relaxed. The following statements are suggested for this introduction to the slide presentation. The counselor sight begin 14ke this:

Patty, we need you to see this presentation on aloation. This is a medical presentation, auch of the medical information is documentated from Lomous madical reports compiled from around the country and the world. There will be a young woman in the. presentation who will ask many questions about aleation.-paolally many that you are thinking of right now. The passentation will: answer these questions. There is intonation alout pre-natal growth and abortion. We feel that every woman should have the freedom to le informed and to know exactly what is happening in her pregnancy. The presentation takes alout 26 minutes and we'll. have your results by that time. Feel free to saoke if you like. Land I'll be lack at the end of the presentation.

At this point you will tura on the presentation and as you are leaving the room, you would turn off the lights and close the door. The presentation is turned on without asking the client's permission or opinion. Introducing the presentation is perfectly natural. The girl accepts it as part of her preparation for the abortion, just act very confident and se-assured.

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personally have heard literally hundreds of clients and students say if I had only known, I wouldn't have had the abortion, or if I had

This is the time, of course, to show our love and to reconsition.

feelings that she was exploited by the doctor or whoever helped her have the abortions that she was given expediency rather than the education, love, and concern that she really needed at that time that she can't blame herself for what she didn't know in the first place. In presenting this information there is no intention to distress any. one particularly not those who have had an abortion. By presenting the facts, these personal tragedies can be prevented in the future.

One last thought in regards to the above is, how many more girls will fall victim to abortion, and how many babies will have to die if the truth is continued to be covered up? Therefore, because of the above and other. reasons, we have come to the absolute conclusion whether in the centar or in school that if you really want to save the mother from this tragedy of abortion and the life of the unborn child, it is necessary to show the presentation. Please rezember the slides are not intended to take the place of personal counseling, but to educate the client so that she can now understand what the counselor seans when she says baby in place of fetus and that abortions are dangerous and that a life is taken in every abortion.

It is now necessary to examine each of the major problems this pregnancy would present to the client. This is important even if you know the client is not pregnant, as she may become pregnant, and again seek an abortion at a later date. Using the 7 steps listed here, actually write down the problems and ramifications the client perceives, possible alternatives she is considering, and the possible results of her choices. Then write down the solutions we can assist her with through the center or community resources, etc.

1.

2.

Explore the situation.

Seek to develop an understanding of the situation.

3.. Explore the alternatives that have been considered by

the client.

4: Suggest the alternatives of which the cliant has been

unaware.

3. Supply the Information of which the client has laen

4.

7.

unwars.

Help the client sont out the ramifications of the various alternative.

Participate in the painstaking and tedious process of making a decision. It is important for the client to see the logic of making a decision to continue han pregnancy and that sloation is not an alternative, but the refusal to look for an alternative.

COMPLICATIONS OF ABORTION.

Abortion is now hopefully, after viewing"the presentation, frightening thought because she now knows there are a host of unknowns in the consequence category. She sight well be one of the many victins of both immediate and long term complications, including hemorage, Luterine perferation, paraanent sterility, a drastic increase in the incidence of miscarriage and all other tragedies she has just learned about. Help her to see on the other hand, pregnancy and childbirth are natural functions of the human body which result in the birth of a healthy baby from a healthy sother when she receives good prenatal care throughout her pregnancy. Even & very young mother, 11 years old, can have normal pregnancies and deliveries (there is however, sa increase in the number of premature births in very young girls, but these are not lethal complications.), If the woman is pro-life, the following doesn't apply, but do reinforce her pro-life thinking. Ia most cases there is always a positive response to the presentation, even if they are pro-abortion. If they say it's "gross", get thes 1.j explain themselves. You can also agree. Yes, it is gross, but, whea isn't all killing ugly? If it were beautiful, it woulda't ang na be shown."

no one can force her to abort no matter what her age is 11 or 50 years old. Tell her you vill back her up all the way. Bring the boy in to see the presentation - this is very important. Make it very clear that if any further problems arise, you are there to help her. If you haven't done so, this sey be a good time to advise her to delay telling the parents and then get the parents to the center. Before

she leaves, be sure she has your phone number with handout material for her to read. Again, be Lert for the girl who comes in pretending she is pro-life (kovs ahead of time about our work), so we won't try to talk her out of an abortion.

Counseling In Regards To Parents' Reacties.

If the young women's decision rests on her fear of informing her parents, every effort should be made to assist her in this probles. Many girls and young women feel they will be thrown out by parents, vhen, in fact, this usually does not happen. Let her mov that in so vey vill she be homeless. A young vonan's parents or a parent or guardian are still the source of powerful influence, even if it's only in view of dependency. For that reason and regardless of whether the relationship is strong or veak, good or bad, the girl most often feels that her greatest difficulty is to tell her parents she is pregnant. A response to the client with this probles is as follows: can't tell you that your parents will welcome you with open arus, but I do know that even though parents may be very hurt and disappointed in us at times, they never cease being our parents -- they still love us even though they may be very angry for awhile. Would you rather tell them that you're pregnant now, or would you want them to find out by learning that you are one of the many girls who need emergency hospitalization after an abortion? Which would be the greater hurt?

AVAITING IT OUT.

Most young girls don't want an abortion, but parental fear weakens thes. Also, if they tell their parents early in the pregnancy, there is a good chance the parents will push for abortion, therefore,"it can be helpful to encourage that young woman to continue her normal' daily life school, vork, friends, family life, etc., and delay telling her parents until she is ready. She's pregnant, not ill. This gives her time to grow accustomed to the idea of being pregnant and that of telling her parents. Also, most importantly, if she is quite far along in her pregnancy, her parents will be more likely to admit that it is a baby and not push for an abortion. This may be the only way to save her child. (We must respect our parents even if they are wrong. However, we can respectfully decline to follow their ́8 authority when they are leading us against God's word.)

Be Sure: to tell her if she feels ill or has pain, to contact you or go to the parents if she can't get you. This tactic can also be used with older women who still fear the initial encounter with the .. family. After she is further along (past 3 months most people think you can't have an abortion) the parents should then be willing to help provide the emotional and physical support their daughter will need. PREPARING TO FACE THE PARENTS.

The impact of the news on the parents, in any event, is unavoidable, but such can be done ahead of time to smooth the troubled waters in the family for all concerned. So, before the actual meeting with the parents, as much as possible should be learned about the parents and the circumstances involved through interviewing the girl in advancu. This way the girl can also be helped immensely in removing the confusion in her thinking and to point out her obligations and rights, and in the same way, shoving her the concerns of her parents. A greater under standing vill ensue by preparing her to fans her parents and tu communicate with then and the rest of the world, while at the same tia~, you are helping her in making progress to stabilize her own emozional turmoil. The Counselor, through learning a great deal beforehand about the family situation will be better quipped regarding the purticular situation and will, thus, be in a position to provide a buffer and sounding board for those involved. The courage and support tha

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