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ly, and have always hanging to it the ungracefulness of constraint and affectation.
Affectation is not, I confess, an Affecta- early fault of childhood, or the protion. duct of untaught nature. It is not
of that fort of weeds which grow up in the wild uncultivated wafte, but in
garden-plots, under the negligent hand, or unskilful care of a gardener. Management and instruction, and some sense of the necessity of breeding, are requisite to make any one capable of affectation, which endeavours to correct natural defects, and has always the lauda. ble aim of pleasing, though it always miffes it; and the more it labours to put on gracefuloels, the farther it is from it. For this reason, it is the more carefully to be watched, because it is the proper fault of education ; a perverted education indeed, but such as young people often fall into, either by their own mistake, or the ill conduct of those about them.
He that will examine wherein the graceful. ness lies, which always pleases, will find it arifes from that natural coherence, which appears between the thing done, and such a temper of mind as cannot but be approved of as suitable to the occasion. We cannot but be pleased with an humane, friendly, civil temper, wherever we met with it. A miod free, and master of itself and all its actions, not low and narrow, not haughtyand infolent,not blemished
with any great defect, is what every one is tiken with. The actions which naturally flow from such a well-forined mind, please us also, as the genuine marks of it; and being, as it weré, natural emanations from the spirit and disposition within, cannot but be easy and unconftrained. This seems to me to be that beauty which shines through some mens actions, sets off all that they do, and takes all they come near ; when by a constant practice they have fashioned their carriage, and made all those little expreffions of civility and respect which nature or custom has established in con. versation, so easy to themselves, that they seem not artificial or ftudied, but naturally to flow from a sweetness of mind, and a well-turned disposition.
On the other side, affectation is an auk. ward and forced imitation of what should be genuine and easy, wanting the beauty that accompanies what is natural ; because there is always å disagreement between the outward action, and the mind within, one of these two ways. 1. Either when a man would outward. ly put on a disposition of mind, which then he really has not, but endeavours by a forced carriage to make thew of; yet so, that the constraint he is under discovers itself. And thus men affect sometimes to appear fad, mer. ry, or kind, when in truth they are not fo.
2. The other is, when they do not endeavoùr to make fhew of difpofitions of mind, which they have not, but do express those they have by a carriage not suited to them : and such in conversation are all constrained moti. ons, actions, words, or looks, which, though designed to fhew cither their respect or civi. lity to the company, or their satisfaction and easiness in it, are not yet natural nor genuine marks of the one or the other, but rather of fome defcet or mistake within. Imitation of others, without discerning what is graceful in them, or what is peculiar to their characters, often makes a great part of this. But aflcctation of all kinds, whensoever it proceeds, is always offensive; because we naturally Biate whatever is counterfeit, and condemn those who have nothing better to recommend then selves by.
Plain and rough nature left to itfelf,is much better than an artificial ungracefulness, and such ftudy'd ways of being ill-fashioned. The want of an accomplishment, or fome defect in our behaviour, coming short of the utmost gracefulaefs, often escapes observation and conture. But affectation in any part of our carriage is lighting up a candle to our defects, and never fails to make us to be taken notice of, either as wanting sense, or wanting sincerity. This governors ought the more dili. gently to look after ; because, as I above ob
ferved, 'tis an acquired ugliness, owing to mir. taken education, few being guilty of it, but those who pretend to breeding, and would not be thought ignorant of what is fashionable and becoming in conversation ; and, if I mitku not, it has often its rise from the lazy adinonitions of those who give rules and propole examples, without joining practice with their instructions, and making their pupils repeat the action in their fight, that they may core rect what is indecent or constrained in it, till it be perfected into an habitual and becoming easiness,
Ø 67. Manners, as they call it, about which children are so often' Manners. perplexed, and have lo many goodly exhortations made thein by their wise maids and governefles, I think, are rather to be learnt by example than rules; and then ciildren if kept out of ill company, will take a pride to behave themselves prettily, after the fashion of others, perceiving themselves eAteemed and commended for it.
But if by a little negligence in this part, the boy should not pull off his bat, nor make legs very grace. fully, a dancing-master will cure that defect, and wipe off all that plainness of nature, wl.ich the a-la-mode people call clownishness. And since nothing appears to me to give children fo much becoming contidence and be. baviour, and so to raise them to the conver
fation of those above their age, as Dancing. Dancing, I think they should be
taught to dance as soon as they are capable of learning it. For tho' this confifts only in outward gracefulness of motion ; yet, I know not how, it gives children manly thoughts and carriage, more than any thing. But otherwise I would not have little children much tormented about punctilio's or niceties of breeding.
Never trouble yourself about those faults in them, which you know age will cure: and therefore want of well-fashioned civility in the carriage, whilft civility is not wanting in the mind (for there you must take care to. plant it early) should be the parents least care, whilft they are young.
If his tender miod be filled with a veneration for his parents and teachers, which consists in love and efteem, and a fear to offend them; and with respect and good will to all people ; that respect will of itself teach those ways of expressing it, which he observes most acceptable. Be sure to keep up in him the principles of good nas cure and kindness ; make them as habitual as you can by credit and commendation, and the good things accompanying that state: and when they have taken root in his mind, and are fettled there by a continued practice, fear not, the ornaments of conversation, and the outside of falhionable manners, will come